I read this. I’ve read versions of it for years. And here’s my solution for helping men.
Everyone keeps publishing the same article: Men are struggling. Boys are falling behind. Something must be done.
Great. We’ve identified the problem for the thousandth time. Now let’s talk about the part no one wants to say out loud:
Men don’t need another commission, another committee, or another roundtable. Men need direction. Skills. Purpose. And standards.
My solution is simple:
1. Put men back into the trades - where skill becomes confidence.
Not everyone needs college. Not everyone wants a cubicle. But every man needs to know he can build, create, fix, and contribute. Trades don’t just pay well, they restore agency. They give a man the ability to walk into any room knowing: “I can solve a problem today.”
That alone changes everything.
2. Teach men how to provide - beyond just income.
Providing isn’t about being rich. It’s about being reliable. Being the person others can lean on without hesitation.
Real provision is consistency, responsibility, and the refusal to quit when things get heavy. A man who knows how to provide knows how to build a life, not just a paycheck.
3. Teach men how to protect - without shame.
Protecting isn’t toxic. What’s toxic is asking men to deny a biological and moral instinct that’s kept families and communities alive since the dawn of time.
Men protect what matters. Their family. Their work. Their peace. Their integrity.
And when a man stands for something, he becomes unshakeable.
4. Teach men to demand love - not tolerate scraps.
Too many men mistake attention for affection and chaos for connection. Teach a man to value himself, and he stops begging for the bare minimum. He stops tolerating disrespect. He stops confusing struggle for loyalty.
A man with standards lifts his relationships, his family, and his community.
**This isn’t complicated.
It’s not political. It’s not controversial.**
Men thrive when they:
Have a skill.
Have a purpose.
Have a code.
Have a family or community worth showing up for.
We don’t fix the “crisis of men” with paperwork. We fix it by giving men tools, direction, and expectations that build strength, not shame it.