The Art of Connecting: 10 Rules for Building Powerful Relationships (based on the book "How To Be A Power Connector")
I read How to be a Power Connector, so you don’t have to….but you should.
Judy Robinett’s How to Be a Power Connector is more than a book, it’s a blueprint for meaningful relationships. Her wisdom proves that success isn’t built on transactions, but on trust, generosity, and the courage to connect people for mutual growth.
Here are my notes that are my top 10 take-aways from reading it.
10 Tips to Be a Connector of People
Be Intentional with Relationships Don’t leave connections to chance. Identify the types of people who align with your goals and values, then deliberately seek them out.
Build a “5+50+100” Network Divide your network into three circles: your closest five trusted allies, your next 50 solid contacts, and your extended 100 connections. This keeps your energy focused while expanding reach.
Always Add Value First Approach every relationship with the mindset: What can I contribute? Whether it’s an introduction, resource, or insight, giving first builds trust and reciprocity.
Look for Win-Wins The best connectors aren’t matchmakers for random introductions. They actively seek ways to align people’s needs so both sides gain something meaningful.
Be Strategic, Not Opportunistic Connections should be nurtured long before you need them. People can sense desperation. Build genuine trust in advance.
Ask Smart, Specific Questions Instead of “How can I help?” (which puts the burden on them), ask focused questions that uncover real needs, like “What’s the biggest challenge you’re facing in your business right now?”
Follow Up and Follow Through Most people fail here. Keep promises, reconnect after introductions, and check in periodically. Consistency is how connectors stand apart.
Leverage Events Wisely Don’t try to meet everyone in the room. Target a few high-value conversations, listen deeply, and create memorable impressions.
Keep Relationships Alive Stay on people’s radar without always asking for something. Share an article, congratulate a success, or just say hello once in a while.
Think Long-Term and Global A powerful network isn’t built overnight. It compounds over years. Stretch beyond your industry and geography so your connections are diverse and resilient.
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